tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-356827408135871543.post5632418967935758779..comments2023-09-21T04:06:12.405-04:00Comments on She Dances On The Sand: Big Buts, Part Three: Forces of AttractionRioIririhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04358432680088606342noreply@blogger.comBlogger14125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-356827408135871543.post-10028057904735065202008-03-13T17:00:00.000-04:002008-03-13T17:00:00.000-04:00I'm a little late to this, but God it's good. Tha...I'm a little late to this, but God it's good. Thank you. <BR/><BR/>I also wanted to add: if someone likes you and works up the courage to surmount their personal fears of rejection and smiles at you or asks you out or wants to talk about your weekend plans, whatever, you should be grateful and you should feel flattered. Whether you find them attractive or not, they went through some mental acrobatics to get to this place, and they thought you were worth it.Hide and Seekhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05281152311161690441noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-356827408135871543.post-20557531075689130622008-01-23T20:10:00.000-05:002008-01-23T20:10:00.000-05:00This is a wonderful series - I'm reading with bate...This is a wonderful series - I'm reading with bated breath!Anniee451https://www.blogger.com/profile/03066640571157938093noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-356827408135871543.post-21757172938985138762008-01-22T14:54:00.000-05:002008-01-22T14:54:00.000-05:00To which I would say, "But you would like to force...To which I would say, "But you would like to force those of us who DO find fat men/women attractive, to find them repulsive! But we don't..."Stefhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12782937873610761699noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-356827408135871543.post-60127651592081131472008-01-22T05:04:00.000-05:002008-01-22T05:04:00.000-05:00i like the terms BBW, and BHM, as they give a boos...i like the terms BBW, and BHM, as they give a boost of self esteem, i am a BIG accurate HANDSOME debatable and MAN.. Big beautiful women. beauty and being handsome isnt a crime, why must it be when talking about bbw and bhms.<BR/><BR/>beauty is from within i knew a lady who was supposed to be beautiful but she repelled me her soul was wrong, and one of my family isnt classically beautiful but whe she smiled the world lit up, she became beautiful.Mercuriorhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14607976378571790610noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-356827408135871543.post-25766416796667415602008-01-21T20:10:00.000-05:002008-01-21T20:10:00.000-05:00What I find most offensive is that MY self-worth a...What I find most offensive is that MY self-worth and dignity is ONLY based on if I'm "sexually attractive" or not. What a load of c-r-a-p! <BR/><BR/>All I want is to be treated with dignity and respect, just like any other thin American. And on Martin Luther King Jr day in the United States, that message couldn't be more apt. <BR/><BR/>King didn't want people based on physical appearance, but on the content of their character. My physical shape says NOTHING about my character. Being fat is not a moral failing.<BR/><BR/>And if some man happens to find me attractive (which has happened SEVERAL times, btw) they shouldn't be punished or shunned for doing so.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-356827408135871543.post-76117381381903301942008-01-21T17:59:00.000-05:002008-01-21T17:59:00.000-05:00Here some writings from the roots of Fat Acceptanc...Here some writings from the roots of Fat Acceptance. AA they were looking for is common decency. <BR/><BR/>http://www.largesse.net/Archives/FU/manifesto.html<BR/><BR/>Later Fat Acceptance mutated into something where BBW Dances were considered activism and Fat People were became BBWs and later BHMs. I always thought that attributes like beautiful and handsome should not have any worth in the core language of Fat Acceptance because it takes away from the singleness of purpose<BR/>and lets our enemies say that we are no different from them, even if that is not how things really are.<BR/><BR/>WilliamAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17631827845085558541noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-356827408135871543.post-33600572351128845932008-01-21T16:10:00.000-05:002008-01-21T16:10:00.000-05:00meghan - I think that's exactly what they're sayin...meghan - I think that's exactly what they're saying. They don't want to have sex with us, so we have no reason to exist, and the ones who do want to have sex with us are deviant, so they don't have a right to exist either. That's why all the OMG OBESITY EPIDEMIC hysteria and all the pushing to be thin and perfect. But no one is perfect, perfection is a carrot held out to keep you striving and concentrating on that instead of concentrating on having the best life you can at whatever size you happen to be.vesta44https://www.blogger.com/profile/15480692717585745934noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-356827408135871543.post-50616628414400774022008-01-21T15:40:00.000-05:002008-01-21T15:40:00.000-05:00Love this post!Love this post!Kathttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10712786173626176237noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-356827408135871543.post-7113466418748176772008-01-21T15:18:00.000-05:002008-01-21T15:18:00.000-05:00No, I'm pretty sure I'm not =)No, I'm pretty sure I'm not =)Unknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10065078521351571454noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-356827408135871543.post-57787468915831319822008-01-21T15:06:00.000-05:002008-01-21T15:06:00.000-05:00This line of thinking seems tied to the idea that ...This line of thinking seems tied to the idea that a woman's worth is directly correlated to to her sexual attractiveness. It's almost as if they're saying "I don't want to have sex with you, so what right do you have to exist?"Ruth of All Evilhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16231584018075608650noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-356827408135871543.post-30442421805475210602008-01-21T14:37:00.000-05:002008-01-21T14:37:00.000-05:00Rebecca,Thank you! Are you the Rebecca that I'm r...Rebecca,<BR/>Thank you! Are you the Rebecca that I'm related to, by any chance?<BR/><BR/>Mercurior,<BR/>See, that's what I'm talking about. Whatever happened to, "No, thank you--I'm flattered, but I'm not interested"? I may not totally agree with Miss Manners on her seasonal clothing changes, but just about everything else is spot-on. <BR/><BR/>Andee,<BR/>I know, right? What kind of ugly-on-the-inside person do you have to be to act that way? Civility is a good thing, and yet it's fallen by the wayside.RioIririhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04358432680088606342noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-356827408135871543.post-49734223631062238152008-01-21T14:28:00.000-05:002008-01-21T14:28:00.000-05:00Yeah, exactly. I can think of all kinds of people...Yeah, exactly. I can think of all kinds of people I find unappealing, but I don't follow them down the street yelling at them about how unappealing I find them.<BR/><BR/>Andee (Meowser)Andeehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16727350835699642977noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-356827408135871543.post-48817197854243130462008-01-21T14:27:00.000-05:002008-01-21T14:27:00.000-05:00many years ago before i got married, nearly 3 mon...many years ago before i got married, nearly 3 months now, i once asked a girl out on a date, i was friendly, i didnt push i knew them. THEY looked at me then up and down, then turned round and giggled with her friends.<BR/><BR/>as a man that didnt do my self esteem much good.Mercuriorhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14607976378571790610noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-356827408135871543.post-5460791388358042512008-01-21T13:57:00.000-05:002008-01-21T13:57:00.000-05:00*applauds**applauds*Unknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10065078521351571454noreply@blogger.com