Thursday, October 18, 2007

Sometimes, other people say it better than I can

So I'm going to quote the very wise Meowser so that this statement gets read by more people:
...telling us that thin women live longer and are healthier than fat women is a little like telling poor women that if they just made five times as much money their financial problems would be solved. If there is no concrete way of turning most poor women affluent, that piece of information is completely irrelevant.

From a comment on Harriet's blog entry here.


vesta44 said...

Ya know, I went for therapy the first time (for depression) when I was 28, and got totally turned off it for years. The therapist I was seeing told me on the third visit that there was nothing wrong with me that having more money wouldn't cure.
Yep, having lots of money gets rid of depression all right, just like being thin automatically makes us healthy and happy. Tell me some more lies, I'm sure I'll believe them (when pigs fly).

Andee said...

Oh, Rio, thank you so much for the quote! That's a real honor!

I'm still stunned by the number of people who just refuse to accept the fact that most fat people will never become permanently thin no matter how hard they try. Even if they accept the relative immutability of sexual orientation, spiritual orientation, socioeconomic status, etc., they are still stuck on the belief that personal size is entirely a matter of personal choice and habits.

Not that I don't think fat people deserve rights even if they "chose" to be fat -- I don't think rights are "deserved" based on mutability of one's condition -- but it would be lovely if they at least had the facts straight.

Andee (Meowser)

RioIriri said...

I totally understand. I had a therapist that said he couldn't help me unless I either convinced my then-spouse to come in for couples therapy, or left him. While I eventually did leave him, I later received coping skills and help with depression from another therapist that wasn't an ass. But, I wasn't in a position to leave him, nor in the head space to even consider it--I still wanted it to work at that point.

Thank YOU for saying it so I could quote you :)